It’s not surprising to me that I’ve been writing a lot of
posts about social change and human nature recently, considering I’ve always
been interested in psychology and social causes. But all of these things come
from extrospection, studying that which is around you. Let’s look at ourselves;
introspection is not an easy task for those who don’t take the time.
Although I started this one by writing about body language,
I realised what’s the point of reading
others if you are not reading yourself? Confused? It’s crucial for us to
reflect upon our actions and reactions, conversations, behaviour at least
weekly, if not on a daily basis. What differentiates us from other animals, as
far as we can tell? We seem to have a unique capability of introspection.
‘Life isn’t meant to be easy, it is meant to
be lived…Sometimes happy, other times rough. But with every up and down, you
learn lessons that make you strong.’
We get so bogged down in the minute details of life, in the
small fights or let-downs by people we love. But we have step back and look at
the big picture. Life wants us to be happy, to be at peace with ourselves and
with others and most of all, that we don’t need to suffer. Thus, came about my
meaning of happiness.
·
“How
people treat you is their karma. How you react is yours.” – Wayne Dyer
You can’t control others’ behaviour or change who they are and what they
do, but you can control yourself not to react (which takes a lot of practise). Control your interpretations,
behaviour, attitude and perceptions and you will become a happier and
less-stressed out person.
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Your
beliefs create your reality.
“Man is made by his belief. As he
believes, so is he.” – Goethe
Question everything, your beliefs, your parents, the media, your friends,
your teachers. Always check if your beliefs are indeed yours or have been
passed on by someone else. (This also
helps to maintain a healthy amount of introspection.) You have lived your
life to this day with your beliefs, you are who you are and where you are
because of your beliefs. ‘Heal your limiting beliefs and you will transform
your life.’
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Don’t
strive for perfection – you can’t get any better than that.
“There are no such things as limits
to growth, as there is no limit to human capacity for intelligence, imagination
and wonder.” – Ronald Reagan
Perfection is a limitation. What is better than perfection? Nothing. Aim
for your best, which can only improve every single time. But the catch is, your
best simply has to be YOUR BEST. Even if you don’t accomplish the exact dreams
you set out to achieve, take pride in the lessons you learn and master along
the journey.
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Make use
of your unique talents, which would go to waste otherwise.
“The person born with a talent they
are meant to use will find the greatest happiness in using it.” – Johann
Wolfgang von Goethe
No matter who you are or what you do, you will have something that you
can do better than anyone else. Don’t compare yourself to others, don’t compete
and don’t look for external approvals. It is your responsibility to yourself to
seize that talent and work on improving it and sharing that awesomeness with
the world.
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Remember
that you don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are.
“If you are obsessed with defeating
the other guy and winning at all costs, then you are guaranteed to attract the
vibrational equivalent of this thinking into life – even if you do yoga and
stand on your head chanting mantras everyday.” – Wayne Dyer
We have heard this one but this requires changing your thinking which in
turn changes your beliefs, which changes your behaviour which will change your
life.
